Potty Training in a Pandemic, Part 2

Isolation atop Isolation After our not-so-stellar start, and the hard-slam of perfectionism, we regrouped. I paused, I wrote. My husband and I got back on the same page. We talked about our feelings and we made a new plan moving forward. We realized that starting a big, all-consuming endeavor like potty training twins is not…

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In thinking of me; in thinking of the kids.

Right now I’m connected to books.I’m connected to writing.I’m connected to people to food to music to rest. Why are we asking our children, some of the most vulnerable people on the planet, to be connected to anything else? We can only ask of them what we are willing to do ourselves.May we grant them…

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Yes, You and Just One

But is it just one glass? And if it is and you’re anything like me, do you wish it were really 3 or 5…? Yes, I’m judging you. Yes, you. But not the You who has a heart of gold and inherent worth. Those still exist. You are still that and whole. I don’t think…

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Doing the Things that Scare Us

Right now I’m scared to stay positive. I mean, I am feeling positive but I’m scared to share that. I’m scared to show that in the faces of those who are struggling right now and want to see validation of their pain. I guess I’m positive now because I just wasn’t. These past two months,…

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Relationships, Recovery, and Replay – Part II

Here’s the other half to Relationships, Recovery, and Replay Part I. … Part II 16 Candles Last week my husband and I added another candle to our dating-cake. 16 years, the entire life of a teenager. I even made this card to remind myself to remember the sweetness of today, of us. It’s been easy…

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Relationships, Recovery, and Replay – Part I

Part I I was telling my husband about the woman at dance. I noticed something about her. We made small talk. Then I missed a class and she noticed that about me. My husband, kindly said, “Aww, she’s trying, too!…Now here’s the part where you say, ‘Hey you wanna grab coffee or something?’” I heard…

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Which Came First?

Maybe it’s the sobriety or maybe it’s the high-waisted jeans. Everything changes when you start to do things for yourself. Last week was Valentine’s day and the internet was plastered with pink hearts and messages of self-care. Modest folx were also keen to point out that self-care is more than just warm baths and chocolates.…

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